According to Socrates, if you are to get out of the cave, someone has to drag you to the entrance. Kyle, you've done it.
Let's speak hypothetically for a second. Say that I had a girlfriend which I had broken up with and still had contact with. One night we joke and talk about making out, the joking goes too far, and the event happens. As happens probably 99% of the time, the girl wants to have a "talk" after and discuss "our future". This is where Kyle opened my eyes. The question posed, is it equally bad that the girl went over looking for emotional fulfillment through commitment when compared to the guy just looking for action. Kyle said yes, and I agree.
How I support Kyle is based on one axiom. Sneaky=Sneaky. Both parties were trying to deceive the other. The girl was going over hoping to somehow work out a deal of commitment to her, and the guy was hoping to somehow work out a deal to get a rise, while both hold this information from the other. I had never considered it like this before. The girl didn't want to be used for the guys fulfillment, but a guy doesn't want to be used for a girls emotional fulfillment either. I always thought the guy was the one to blame, but really, the sneaky girl is just as responsible. Yet the controversy seems to come when the friends find out that you hooked up with your old girlfriend. "Man, you were just looking for a piece weren't you?" My answer used to be, "Dude, I'm sorry, I thought she was cool with it." But now my answer, and I feel so liberated about it, is going to be, "Pshhh, that girl was just looking for a piece of commitment!"
Thanks Kyle, I feel the chains lifted. Now I can hook up with ex-girlfriends freely and blame it on them. Word.
4 years ago